If you and I were to sit down today and have a face-to-face conversation, there’s one question I would ask you …
How’s your soul?
It’s an honest question I’m not sure we’re always willing to answer honestly.
But at the end of the day, I want to be able to say these words from that old hymn, “It is well with my soul.” I’m just not sure I can always get there. Because honestly, I tend to fill my life with a lot of things that don’t make my soul well.
And tucked away in these hardly avoidable places is a struggle that runs deep into my roots.
Looking at her. This woman who takes the form of so many people. From co-workers to the woman behind me in the carpool line. She’s always there.
She doesn’t have to say a word directly to me. But somehow she’s sending me a subliminal message that I don’t measure up. Compared to, her.
It’s all lies in my head. And I know it. So why do I believe it?
Because our lives are in a constant battle to see whose truth we will align ourselves with, God’s or ours.
Over the next few posts, I want to share with you three lies I’ve believed about comparison. These lies often lead me to a place of wrestling with the wellness of my soul. Because each day something is tempting us to compromise this holy place in our lives.
If you just ignore it, it doesn’t exist.
Over the last few years, I’ve watched someone close to me battle an addiction. And one of the ways I’ve seen their struggle become heightened is when they start to think they’ve got it under control and they take things back into their own hands. Shortly after, the fall comes. Again and again and again.
But I get it.
Because nothing in our current culture teaches us to have soul-honesty. We’re all about filters, flaunting and having things figured out.
I’ve yet to post a picture of my husband and I having an argument. Or my daughter giving me a sassy tone. Or that unexpected tax bill that made me want to pass out.
But I’ve had plenty of moments where those types of things just happened and I popped open my phone only to see her posting a picture with the love of her life holding her closely.
Or her kid that just made student of the month.
Or her business adventure that is actually my secret dream.
The more I’ve allowed myself to wrestle with the way I look at her the more I’ve invited the process of God-honesty in. It’s this place where I let God into these cracks in my soul. I don’t deny they are there or that I’ve got it all figured out.
Because I need a God bigger than this struggle to save me. Every single day. I’m tired of what comparison has compromised in me for too long. And today’s the best day to start chasing the only truth that will set us free.
“Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:32
Because free women? They don’t have to measure up to anyone. Not even her.
How’s Your Soul?
In the comment section below, share with us a situation that has recently made you feel like you don’t measure up. Be honest. It’s safe here.
Next comparison lie coming next week: If she wins, you lose!
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