It’s DAY FOUR of our 5 Habits celebration!!!
Habit Four: She Gives Other’s What She Needs
Giving others what we need. This is easier said than done, right?
I don’t always want to give others what I need; sometimes my initial reaction is to give people what I think they deserve. And that might be a witty comeback, a nasty look, or even an unforgiving heart. Especially when we feel like others aren’t giving us what we need, it’s really easy to give up because we start to feel resentful and maybe even a little entitled.
Emotional stinginess is easy, and it comes pretty natural to most of us. But giving others what we need is bravery and kindness mixed together. It’s a beautiful recipe, and in my opinion, it’s the greatest form of generosity. It takes some time to get into a rhythm with this particular habit, but once you do, you’ll give everything you ever thought you needed away.
We are going to talk more about this today on our FB Live Event!
Today’s giveaway is all about encouragement!
We’ve partnered with True Cotton, one of my absolute favorite Etsy shops, to give you a beautiful print to encourage you to not give up as you are emotionally generous with others. Arin designed this beautiful print of Galatians 6:9, one of my favorite verses, as a special way to celebrate the first birthday of 5 Habits.
If you don’t win this giveaway, she’ll have it available in her store for purchase, so make sure you hop over to her shop and check out her work!
We are also giving away a $15 giftcard to Proverbs 31 Ministries! Because it’s one of the most encouraging places of my life for sure.
Enter the giveaway below! And remember, you can enter all week for each of the prizes. We’ll announce the winner’s next week!
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Oh my goodness, this is beautiful! Thank you for your message each day.
What a beautiful print! Thank you for going through this book and the #5Habits again. This has been so refreshing to be reminded of the things we must not give up on! I haven’t been able to catch any of the Facebook live videos, due to a new job that has been totally consuming, but I plan to watch them over the weekend. But being able to read these emails each day has been such an inspiration for me, and couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you Nicki!
I love the print, so pretty.
This is so generous, and the art work is beautiful. This verse spoke to my heart when I read the book and is a constant reminder to hold fast to God and persevere.
I can be emotionally generous this week by giving my husband more grace. Too often, I focus on what I want and need out of our marriage, and I forget to think about what he needs.
This is so fun! 🙂 Awesome idea! I love that we can go back and revisit the habits and maybe win a prize! Woohoo! 😉
A way to be emotionally generous is despite how people treat us, just keep doing good to them, serving them, no matter our feelings towards them, love is a decision not a feeling.
Excited for today’s teaching. Sounds like something I need to hear. Great giveaway also
Being a good listener is an important emotional need that I can give to others.
Wow! I LOVE that print! I plan to be more “emotionally present” with my mentally challenged adult daughter. She loves spending time with me doing WHATEVER. Today I will schedule some quality time with her laughing and playing board games with her at the dining room table.
That print is so beautiful! This is one I definitely need to work on everyday! It is easy to expect grace and people to be emotionally generous with us, but more difficult to do it with others. It requires a daily surrendering to His Will and His thoughts! Thank you so much for revisiting this book this wk!!!!
Such a beautiful print.
This habit is my most dificultades one. Giving away what I myself need.
Thanks for doing these talks and giveaways all week!
As a wife and mother, this habit really resonates with me!
I am listening to your teaching right now!!! What a blessing!! Thank you!!!
I’m excited about today’s teaching. This habit is another that I struggle with but I know that is a must. thank you for revisiting the book with us!!
Nicki, I’m loving catching your FB videos each day and reviewing the 5 habits! What a wonderful reset! The print is beautiful. Emotional generosity is something I want to be intentional about! Love you lots! You are making a big impact on so many lives for God!!!
Giving others what you need is hard for me. But I guess it could be as simple as giving a compliment. This book has been SO good for me, thanks!
I love this habit and reminder to give what we need first. All too often I wait for what I need before I feel like giving out but when I give first…man, game changer. Thanks, Nicki – listening to the FB Live right now! Thank you!
Oh Nicki!! You are doing such an amazing job! You are speaking right into my heart!
I agree this is harder than you think! Definitely needed this reminder. Thank you for the encouragement!!!
Wow! Giving someone something I need????? That’s hard to do. I want to give them what they need. So turning that around will be a challenge for me. I don’t like people to have to worry about me and I don’t like to blade all my business to everyone. I pretty much keep quit about my own self and what’s going on in my life. So to be able to give encouragement and really asking someone about something they may need help with is going to a great emotional breakthrough for me! Thanks for the opportunity!
Thanks Nicki for encouraging all of us women! We all need it and also need to give it. Thank you for this reminder..
I give others kindness & grace because I have plenty to spare!
Emotional generosity is calling the women in my small group and talking about non-Bible study topics; to REALLY hear their hearts and LISTEN so that I can ask follow up questions!
I am loving the FB live everyday this week! I want to be emotionally generous!
Thank you for this reminder!
I’m a caretaker by nature so it’s all too east for me to give others what I need. It’s a balancing act to keep as asset from being a defect.
I can be emotionally generous by putting little “love notes” on people’s desks at work, without them knowing it was me. Which is fairly easy to do since I’m one of the first people to get into the office. 😉
Wow, thanks for this. I have always thought that I couldn’t give to others what I need because how can you give something you don’t have. This helped me see that through Christ I have all that I will ever need. So the first step would be to run to Jesus to be filled and then I can give to others. Practically speaking I can give others love and acceptance because God unconditionally loves and accepts me. Thank you and God Bless!
That is so beautiful! And timely! A friend shared that verse with me, and now I am seeing it everywhere. And I am weary and feel like giving up, so the Lord knows I need to read and remember that verse!
Blessings, Nicki!
Beautiful! I love to hang beautiful work that glorifies God in our home and office!! Share the love at all times
What a beautiful print reminding us of the encouragement we have in not growing weary, but persevering.
To be able to give emotionally I need to filled in Jesus when I am not it is much harder to give emotionally and all the excuses not to be giving are based on how I may feel or think which. I know I can always trust when Jesus is promoting me to give emotionally without always expecting something in return. Even a simple “thank you” to my kids or husband for helping around the house can mean a lot.
I was able to breathe a sigh of relief at this point in the book, as Habit 4 has always been something I do well. I love how God rewards our willingness to be pruned with moments of encouragement like this.
Listen when others are hurting and spend time with people
I can be emotionally generous by treating people with compassion and love when I am not feeling loved or compassionate myself.
We can give others the love that we most desperately desire. God will fill us with His love which is exactly what our soul longs for. Thank you for the chance! I appreciate you.
Thank you, Nicki, for following through on these assignments of refinement! This book is so very edifying!
And today’s gift drawing is lovely!!!
With God I can give others encouraging words. While I encouraging others it’s encouraging me back.
I can be emotionally generous by being more patient with my children.
I can give more love….definitely more love. And grace.
Forgiveness. We all need it.
I believe children are great teachers of this habit. Not because they’re necessarily good at it, but because children in need of love and attention often behave badly. And as adults, we tend to see that and meet the need more easily when we see it in children than when we witness it in adults. We just need to work at always responding to others with love, in spite of how they may treat us.
I encourage other by sending cards
Praise without seeking my own. Forgiving before it’s asked for. Kindness and grace even when they don’t seem deserving.
Spending time with others and actively listening helps me to tune into the needs of others. I am so thankful fro the kindnesses I have received so I try to return them to others as much as I can. It is a meditation of sorts by now.
What an awesome giveaway Nicki! I still can’t believe I participated in this Bible study with your book & @p31obs 1 year ago!!!
That’s crazy!
I would love to participate in the next #p31obs ????????????
You are such an amazing encourage Nicki so keep on doing what you’re doing girl! The world needs more YOU!
Gorgeous print!
I can encourage by asking others what they need prayers for. It is amazing how much that helps me keep my mind off my own problems. It is my go-to when I’m having a bad day!
Such a good reminder of how emotionally stingy I can be.
I love that i am leading a group of ladies through this study at its “Happy Birthday”!
Print is Beautiful- my Favorite verse ! Hope I win !!
I love this print and also the frame is the best I would love to win this!
Being emotionally generous to me would be treating others as I would want treated. Speak kindly to others as you don’t know what their day has been like. On days I feel so discouraged I might be nippy and it always helps when someone supports me so never know what goes on behind closed doors. Support others with kindness and a listening ear. Be listening for that “heart drop” as said by one author.
I love to message someone just to say I’m praying for them today or sending them a blessing.
A beautiful Print – looking forward to a second study with your book!
The chapter on being emotionally generous was so powerful. I was able to help my husband with a different boss and woeksituation by encouraging him to find ways to be emotionally generous and give his boss what he himself needs. Thank you for this encouragement!
I want to be emotionally generous when I’m tired. I feel like I don’t think about it. I’m just there, but not THERE.
Beautiful print and a great reminder!
Always respond with kindness! ALWAYS!!
I love this habit and how it encourages me to focus on others instead of myself. Whenever I start to feel off I ask myself what it is I’m really needing in that moment (grace, encouragement, kindness, joy, appreciation, etc) and try to find someone else to give it to. 🙂
I would share with my family (sisters). I am planning on buying two books and sharing one with one side of the family and one on the other and asking them to pass the book on to another family member when they are done. Thanks for this amazing book.
Oh, this would look amazing in my new house!! ????????
ACK! This is my 5 Habits One Thing Life Verse!!!!
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